How ever you landed on homebirth, here you are and now you’re wondering what’s next. Here’s a comprehensive list of to dos to help the process go smoothly.
Find a midwife
while some people choose to go unassisted, most will want a medical provider in attendance.
There are several different types of midwives:
Find a doula
while a midwife will be there to tend to all things medical, your doula will be there to tend to your physical and emotional needs. A doula can provide security and comfort and will be able to focus on you and your needs throughout the whole processes.
The best way to find a great doula is to interview several until you find one you click with. There will be some basic questions that you’ll want to ask, but a big deciding factor should be how the doula makes you feel.
Pick a childbirth education course
While the age of information has given us access to more information than we could ever digest, it can be hard to sift through it all and decide what’s worth knowing, what’s not, and what’s simply not true. A solid childbirth education course will break things down so they are easy to understand and implement.
I’m partial to the mini courses offered here birthyourway.thinkific/courses . With these mini courses you can skip the stuff you already know and dive into the things you don’t. They are self paced, you’re given one-on-one instruction with the instructor at a time that works with your schedule and a private Facebook group where the instructor conducts live sessions that include additional content as well as Q&A.
Your midwife will likely have a supplies list or even a package of supplies to order that she has put together. These will be items she needs to do her job effectively. You will want to make sure to have your own comfort items. Here’s a list of what I recommend.
Decide who else you do or don’t want at the birth
Does your mom really want to be there? Maybe your sister is a nurse and you think she could be helpful. No matter what, sit and really think about how many people you want there and what kind of energy they will bring. As Michel Odent, MD, says, the baby comes out the same way it got in. That is to say, giving birth is incredibly intimate. Sometimes it’s even recommended to make out or even have sex (assuming your water hasn’t broken) while in labor to get the oxytocin flowing! Do you really want granny there? When you look at the photos below, which feels better to you? There's no wrong answer here. Only how you feel.
Once you’ve completed this list, relax! Your body is working hard to make a human! Eat good foods. Move around a bit. Dance. Sing. Do whatever fills your cup.
If you're having trouble sleeping, a nice epsom salt bath can infuse your body with muscle and nervous system relaxing magnesium.
For even deeper rest, enjoy a sleep meditation through the free app linked below. These meditations are beginner level, and gradually become more advanced the more you use the app.
Until next time, happy birthy vibes!
I'm a wife, mother of two, avid reader, doula, birth educator and an aspiring midwife. I grew up in Iowa, and my family and I moved to Columbus in 2019, and have decided to call it home.